But, not just my life, my precious daughter's, too. She and I had been US, our own li'l crew - me and my DoodleBug.
Of course, my family had been the first to care for and love the 2 of us.
I'm choosin' this time, however, to pay homage to my dearly beloved husband.
Our hero. And, not just 'cause he's literally a hero for his military service to our government, and sacrifices for this family and our fellow man. He's truly an honourable gentleman.
When people have asked us the story of how we met and got to where we are, they most always relate it to something of the likes of a Lifetime movie..and, in every way that could be true...the drama, the emotion, the passion, the depth of love, etc.
I am proud to say that even through the ups and downs and wild rides, we're as devoted as our young love had us all those years ago. And, boy were those years made tough for us, but it's more than okay 'cause nothin' will ever separate us for good. All those who thought we were never gonna make it, boo on ya. Nothin' 'bout life is easy, especially livin' amongst the militaristic style, but nothin' will drive a wedge between us, that's a promise.
I have and will always love this man that God sent into our lives. He's been the man that he didn't have to be, nor did he ask for what he's gotten himself into...he just has always been.
Although, I can say he snuck a peek at me before makin' the first move to head in our direction. So, through my father's ministry to the military, I decided to jump in and do what I felt my part in supportin' our troops was.
Now, what you should know, is that after a few very traumatic incidents surroundin' my life amidst my pregnancy, I was very anguished by the thought of allowin' any other male close to me/us. Well, I'd let go of all the negative emotions and pained mentality, grew by the blessin' of my wonderful miracle in the birth of my daughter, and recommitted my life for God to do with. I'd accomplished so much from within to give out into the world surroundin' my life. While I was involved with actions to change other's lives, my own life was, as well. I was guided to pray not for God to send someone into our lives, but to accept who God would send our way. It wasn't an idea I sought after and bein' that I always go with the flow of things happenin' for a reason, I just figured whatever could be would be in it's time. I began to feel unafraid and open to what God would do in our lives.
Enter, my next gift from God.
So, through the program I mentioned above, I decided to "adopt" a troop from every branch of service in order to send care packages and be a support for them as a prayer warrior and pen-pal. This was supposed to be an anonymous type of thing. But, I know a private eye type of guy who found out his adoptee and decided to snab a pic of which he decided to make a move on this "very cute Southern gal"(ME).
From the startlin' first meetin', and I mean how smooth he explained his case, I knew this guy snagged me and would reel me in...and, I was ready to let 'im. I cain't explain it, but from the moment I heard his deep gratin' voice(think of the country singer Josh Turner)and saw his picture, I knew he'd become mine...especially when he serenaded me in his looow bass voice the song "Would You Go With Me".
Our correspondence was sensational through Dear John letters, packages, and the good ol' AOL at the time...and, he can't to this day fathom how I managed to keep his "man of few words" self on the phone 'til workin' hours again. Speakin' of, he's always been the type to mean what he says and say what he means.
We meshed on so many levels, and ever since findin' out 'bout the ones in which we differ, we've balanced the other out.
His care and concern for the goings on in our lives was amazin'. His help, unasked for, proved his willingness to have us as his own.
It was awe inspsirin' to learn of his tours of duty and how his occupation affords this country such a security.
I will never forget the 1st time we literally met. As soon as his ship pulled in from it's time at war, his country boy bum hopped in his truck to head down to see us from 2 states away. Oh, how it was. Such a tall, strappin' young man approachin' while hidin' flowers behind his back...I ran out the screen door with one of the biggest smiles on my face(1st was at the birth of my doodle)and into his arms. I didn't wanna take my hands from 'round his neck, and I snuggle there every time I have him here.
And, when Doodle saw him, she stated HE was HER FATHER!
Well, everything fell into place, so naturally.
I've gotta give props to my family for allowin' him into our lives to love us and lovin' him and supportin' us from the get go...thank y'all Momma & Diddy!
From then on, everytime he had liberty he was visitin'...even drove all night for several hours after duty to be there the next day for Doodle's birthday before havin' to drive right back afterward.
In so many ways since then he's proved his faithfulness and loyalty. I love him for everything he is, all that he's been, and all that he will be.
He's never waivered in his love for me and our children. And, in that regard, he's NEVER been labeled as "step" parent...He's her Dad, too!
And, the way he provides is awesome.
Not only is he smart, but he's skilled. I love how his engineerin' mechanical mind has saved us some odd however many thousands of $ 'cause he's my fix-it guy, and the boys' go to guru for all things they get themselves into with their inherited "how does this work" mentality...so ingenious, they are.
And, he's been the one and only to be the role model of "father" in her life, ever. Believe me, he's set the standard for any guy hopin' to live up to callin' her their own someday.
He's been such a leader, an example, in every sense. He's the best head of household I could possibly imagine.
And, he works SO hard...especially bein' my help meet. We're somethin' together...been labeled a "power couple" so very often.
And, without him I'd be so different, things would be so different. I couldn't imagine the rest of life without him, or losin' him at some point. His presence in my life is everything, means so very much.
He's never questioned whether I was too much to deal with or why he'd bother with a young woman who's facin' physical trials. He came to care for me durin' my 1st procedure after meetin' him and's never left my side through any other he's been given leave to be present for. He keeps me goin'. I miss my English teas he makes me...always a comfort. He can still hold me when I'm at my worst.
He is the epitome of "knight in shinin' armour", as he's rescued this damsel and made her a Queen.
I'm sure you're wonderin' if there's anything on the flip side of this that I'd not mind sharin', but this isn't 'bout shamin' an imperfect shell of a man who's been perfectly capable of freely givin' his love to me. Just like that Lifetime movie, there are strained moments, but we've overcome any doubts and all those troubles that try to thwart every goodness.
God's been good to see us through. He's chosen the best man to hold this heart. I wish, a lot, he could do so more literally, but he'll have it always.
I feel safe, I feel secure with this strong character in my life. I know he'd do anything and everything to make his way home in the worst of situations tryin' to do him in. He'd lay down his life without a shadow of doubt. He's as selfless as they come. He realizes what really matters, what's important.
The man I see, of course, is different in everyone's eyes...yet, I know what I know. I know he's a wonderful bein' that isn't prideful or pompous and doesn't care for thanks for doin' what he does...it's just him. And, the higher his status is defined, the more humble he is...nothin' goes to his head.
LOL, I'm sorry, I know that my husband's gonna be the only one to get that meme like I intend.
I'm sure he'd beg to differ 'bout any and/or all of this, and maybe even wonder what I'm tryin' to get outta him for strokin' his ego(nothin' and everything at the same time, lol).
So, my love, I hope you're able to read this and see for yourself MY truth 'bout how much and why I LOVE YOU! I cain't wait 'til you return HOME. He'd say this isn't really our home 'cause he cain't wait for the day we live in what he's built from the ground up, which is gonna be superb, but HE has built our home in every other way on The Rock, solid and grounded. God's been good to him, and me, and our children, and this family. I'm so thankful to the Heavens for my guy.
Ooooh, I dunno why it seems I'm 'bout to end this without mentionin' how cool this guy of mine is with cars...anything automotive, really, but a FORD/Mustang freak have I! I just love how he gets so whimsical over this topic. All I can say is that he's taken me on many an adventure with his autos. And, he can fix anything...once again, savin' thousands of $. I refer to him at times as my very own 3M.😉
And, I can't forget how dull life would've been without him in our lives. With him, my eyes have been opened to so many new things. With his patient guidance, we've been taken to new places, new heights and gotten through circumstances we'd never even imagined could be.
He's stood firm and steadfast by my side and I know that no matter what else is to come, we'll get through it hand in hand and heart to heart.
There is no other man for me or father for my children. While he may feel he's inadequate in both realms since there's no instruction manual for either, he's done a spectacular job given the situational circumstances of our life.
Dang, this could all be saved for the upcomin' holiday of Father's Day, I realize, but I'm done hidin' all I've kept in while tryin' to protect my husband...at least this 1 time. I don't have to give out secretive secured information to rave 'bout how he fills my life with such joy. I remember him bein' kinda pouty, though he won't admit it, over not really bein' mentioned in my blog. So, here he is(not in all his glory, 'cause I'd be writin' a book(great idea!)). He just simply is the most lovin' man ever to be part of my life, and I'm blessed to have gotten to know him and make him mine.
We are one...and, definitely a force to be reckoned with. Which is why I call him my Hurricane. I think I'll leave it here, for now. Hopefully I've introduced him to y'all well enough. I'm proud to be loved by a man who's let everything go to let God's grace bring him full circle, who He'd have him be, for us. Aside from everything in his previous life before us, he's become his own man, one I'm so honoured to hold onto as my partner for life.
I'm so glad to share that God's given me the desires of my whole heart. No fantastical and childish dream could compare.
And, I pray for each and every one of you to have someone in your life that has been or is the best thing that's ever come to you. If the time hasn't come yet, I know God will see through his promise to never leave you lonely. Continue to pray for those that are in your life that you may not see in this light...God can change the heart, the mind, your lives. Try to see the best, and look 'round the bad. Be the way you'd wish to be received. If you've been through tumultuous times, pray God will provide a breakthrough from the madness. God can open the heart, again. And, God can remove you from that which has you in pain and place you somewhere serene. And, cling to family and friends. If you're alone, give of yourself in time to begin the change in your life. I pray all these things for all of ya. Trust and believe, have faith. God bless your hearts, my friends.
Just one of our love songs, my hubby. 'Cause you know I'm also keepin' you forever & for always!
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